In this post, I explore why shame, guilt, self-hate, and blame have no place in the therapy room—or in your self-concept. Using an Internal Family Systems (IFS) lens, I unpack how these parts often mask as self-awareness but actually block healing. Real growth comes from curiosity, accountability, and compassion—not punishment. You can’t heal what you still hate. And you don’t have to earn your worth by tearing yourself down first.

There is a weird, quiet truth about adult friendships and adult loneliness—there is no social script for saying "Hey I'm 33 and I'm lonely".